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Fibromyalgia and Marriage

Chronic Illness and Marriage

Fibromyalgia and chronic illness creates stress that can do some pretty bad things to a marriage. When you live with chronic illness it affects how you interact with those around you and especially those closest to you.

These posts are about dealing with Fibromyalgia, chronic pain, fatigue, or any chronic illness and marriage. Illness impacts our relationships, but especially our marriages.

Some of the most popular posts in this category are:

  • What fibromyalgia does to a marriage
  • When you are jealous of your healthy spouse
  • When your partner is struggling with chronic illness and pushing you away

Fibromyalgia and the Importance of Forgiveness

Last Updated: February 19, 2021

Fibromyalgia and the importance of forgiveness

Fibromyalgia and Forgiveness You may not think that forgiveness (or holding a grudge) would play a role in fibromyalgia, but as with all negative emotions it can play a huge role in the symptoms you experience. Holding a grudge is the opposite of forgiveness. Along with that grudge comes the … [Read more...]

3 Comments Filed Under: Coping, Extra Spoons, Fibro and Marriage, Fibromyalgia, Medical Studies, relationships Tagged With: acceptance, decreasing pain, decreasing stress, forgiveness

When your partner is sick and pushing you away

Last Updated: August 31, 2020

When your partner is ill and pushing you away

What do you do when your partner is struggling with chronic illness and pushing you away? In order to understand what you need to do, you have to first understand what your partner really needs, and what they are really asking for when they push you away. The following question came via email … [Read more...]

2 Comments Filed Under: Fibro and Marriage, friendship, relationships Tagged With: communication, sex

Communicating Your Needs When You Have Chronic Illness

Last Updated: August 12, 2020

Communicating Your Needs When You Have Chronic Pain

A friend in my local fibro support group asked a fairly common question about how you deal with family who just don't get that your energy level varies, they don't get that you really DO hurt and that you really DON'T have any energy. How do you communicate your needs when you have chronic illness … [Read more...]

13 Comments Filed Under: Coping, Extra Spoons, Fibro and Marriage, friendship Tagged With: asking for help, chronic fatigue, chronic illness, chronic pain, communication, family

Things to Say to Someone with Chronic Illness

Last Updated: August 12, 2020

10 things you should say to someone with chronic illness

If you love someone with chronic illness, you want to show them you care. There are plenty of lists of things that you shouldn't say, things that aren't helpful to them or to your relationship. But, more important are the things that you should say to someone with chronic illness. These are the … [Read more...]

6 Comments Filed Under: Coping, Extra Spoons, Fibro and Marriage, Fibromyalgia, friendship, relationships Tagged With: chronic illness, communication

The Importance of Asking For Help

Last Updated: July 30, 2020

The importance of asking for help

Too often we don't ask for help because we assume that others will not be there for us, or that even if they want to be there, they won't be able to help. The problem is that we'll never know if we can depend on others if we never ask. This quote came straight from my Psych book: "Social support … [Read more...]

Leave a Comment Filed Under: Close to My Heart, Coping, Fibro and Marriage, friendship, relationships Tagged With: asking for help, support

We just want a little empathy and understanding

Last Updated: July 30, 2020

There are three things those of us living with chronic pain need more than anything else - acknowledgement, empathy, and understanding. Yet, too often these are the things are lacking most.  "The worst thing about having an invisible illness is that people have a very hard time believing you … [Read more...]

4 Comments Filed Under: Fibro and Marriage, inspiration, relationships Tagged With: chronic pain

When you realize you are the toxic person in the situation

Last Updated: June 22, 2020

When you realize you are being toxic

Have you ever thought about a situation and realized that maybe you were the one making the situation bad? That maybe in a relationship or situation you were the toxic person? Sometimes I read back through something I've written in the past and receive a punch to the gut. That's what happened as … [Read more...]

Leave a Comment Filed Under: Fibro and Marriage, friendship, relationships

Are you spending too much time with the wrong people?

Last Updated: June 13, 2020

Are you spending your time with the wrong people?

  Throughout the last few years I've made a strong effort to spend more time with the right people and less (or no) time with the wrong people.  Throughout the last decade I've shared several topics about dealing with toxic people, or people who drain your energy. It was something I … [Read more...]

Leave a Comment Filed Under: Coping, Extra Spoons, Fibro and Marriage, friendship, relationships Tagged With: support

Helping Your Family Cope With Your Chronic Illness Diagnosis

Last Updated: June 1, 2020

Helping your family cope with chronic illness

  Helping Your Family Cope With Your Chronic Illness Diagnosis guest post from Jaime Lenae Chronic illness doesn’t just affect your health. It can cause a widespread ripple of chaos across all aspects of your life, including your relationships. Previously healthy relationships can begin to … [Read more...]

4 Comments Filed Under: Coping, Fibro and Marriage, relationships Tagged With: chronic fatigue, chronic illness, chronic pain, family

5 Ways to Show Your love, even when you feel like crap.

Last Updated: July 1, 2019

5 ways to show your love even when you feel like crap

When we aren't feeling well it's all too easy to take it out on those closest to us. We can let the stress get the best of us and that often leads to lashing out. We can't take the anger and frustration out on the illness that causes these emotions, so we take them out on the people around us. Most … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Coping, Fibro and Marriage, relationships Tagged With: asking for help, communication

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About Julie

Spoonie. Fibro Warrior. E-health advocate.

Julie Ryan was diagnosed with fibromyalgia in 2010 and endometriosis in 2012. She's lived with chronic migraine most of her life. In 2019 she was diagnosed with inter-cranial hypertension.

Julie has a degree in Psychology, and works as a freelance writer and marketer. Freelance work allows her to work when she can and not be tied to a desk or a schedule. Julie believes in living an inspired life despite chronic illness.

"I have chronic illness, it doesn't have me."

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Blog title inspired by The Spoon Theory, by Christine Miserandino, an excellent explanation of what it's like to live with invisible illness. Read More…

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