Back in 2015, we got to know Ann Smith of Chanute, KS. She was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia in 2008 at the age of 34, after spending five years undiagnosed. Read her original interview is below and keep reading for the update. She wanted to share some updates to remind us all that happiness is possible and that we can still reach out and grab our dreams!
Tell us a little about yourself:
I am a single mom with a 12-year old son. We have a hedgehog. I am a FANATICAL baseball fan, and go to as many games as I can. But I also love to spend time with my son and all of my family. Living in a small town and growing up with 3 older brothers, I was outdoors a lot and still love to fish, and just be outside whenever I can.
Chanute KS is my hometown. My mom and one of my three older brothers live here. I’ve lived here the majority of my life, with the exception of the time I spent in college and married, having moved back here in 2008.
I am currently working part-time as a substitute teacher her in Chanute, while I am attending graduate school full-time online to obtain my Master’s Degree in Special Education. Right now, that is taking up a majority of my time. (see below for updates!)
What lead up to your diagnosis?
After I gave birth to my son (I was 28), I started having what later became described as “Non-Descript, widespread pain”. Initially, my PCP and OB-GYN thought I had either Endometriosis or another condition with my reproductive organs. I went through a partial hysterectomy at the age of 31. When that didn’t fix anything, I then went through a battery of tests: my bladder was tested, I had a colonoscopy, and I had several MRIs and X-rays of every portion of my body. I kept telling my doctors that something just wasn’t “right”; that I didn’t feel well, and, for a woman of 31-32, I shouldn’t have to give myself a pep talk every morning just to get up and go to work. FMS was not something many had heard of at the time, so my PCP just kept throwing pills at me.
When I finally moved here (Chanute) and changed PCPs, and went through the same battery of tests, my doctor finally told me, “Ann, I can look at you and see that something is wrong. The problem is… all of the tests aren’t giving me answers. But let me try something.” At this time she started me on gabapentin. When I went home and started doing research on this particular drug, that was the first time I saw FMS listed as an illness. I did a lot of reading, and at my next follow-up appointment I took several printed pages to my doctor and said, “Do I have this?” She looked at the information, sat silently for a moment, then stated, “I don’t know why I didn’t think of this. You are a textbook case.”
How did your family initially handle your illness?
It was extremely difficult at first… still is at times.
My son’s father was dealing with his own emotional issues, so this put too much strain on our marriage. We divorced not soon after that. My mom, a retired nurse, did much reading on FMS and all of the litany of drugs I tried. She was, and still is, one of my best cheerleaders. My dad had a difficult time wrapping his brain around something he could not see; he became angry. Not at me, but at this demon that seemed to have taken over my life. My son, who was five at this time, was amazingly supportive and understanding. He is still my angel and my lifeline.I've had to come to terms with the fact that my normal is not normal. #spoonielife Click To Tweet
What do you feel is the most challenging aspect of Fibro?
Talking about it.
I lost my marriage, a long-term relationship that followed my marriage, and many friends because of the sheer lack of understanding. I don’t like to talk about it because I refuse to let it define me.
In many ways my internal struggle is horrific. I want a “normal” life. I have had to come to terms with the fact that my “normal” is not Norman Rockwell “normal”. I struggle with this fact DAILY. I want so badly to just be able to bounce out of bed every day, take on the world, and sleep through the night. But that just isn’t how my life path is going. Working on my degree has helped give me focus, so I can still keep moving forward… even if it is only one step some days.Talking about it is the most challenging aspect of #Fibromyalgia for me. Click To Tweet
Do you have any other co-existing conditions? If so, what are they and how do they impact your Fibromyalgia?
I suffer from chronic migraines. Sometimes a migraine and a severe flare go hand in hand.
I also have a congenital heart defect. It doesn’t really impact my FMS, but to know it’s there is a little scary.
What (if anything) have you found/ done that has improved your symptoms?
I exercise. And by exercise, I mean I do yoga, walk, or use my elliptical, and do a TON of stretching. Exercising is not something I can do 7 days a week, or even 5. But I do try to get 3-4 days a week in. I am not sure if it truly helps, but it does help keep me in shape and gets me out of bed and off the couch. It also helps keep the depression at bay.
How open are you with friends & family about your illness & symptoms?
Not very. Honestly, I have sat on this questionnaire for a while. I don’t like to allow myself to get close to people, because it is so difficult to explain to someone what they cannot see and what will not show up on a test. If I am close to someone, however, I do my best to answer questions.
What is the best advice you’ve received about Fibromyalgia?
DO NOT PUSH YOURSELF. And, as a mother, a full-time grad student, a person who loves the outdoors, etc., this is extremely difficult. When I feel really great, I want to go and do and enjoy as much as I can, because I never know if tomorrow I am going to be able to get out of bed.
But truly, pacing myself is the best thing anyone has ever told me to do.Pacing myself is the best thing anyone has ever told me to do. #spoonielife #fibro Click To Tweet
What was the worst advice that you followed?
“Push through the pain”. Coming from someone who has no idea what FMS feels like nor what a person with a chronic illness goes through on a day-to-day basis, this is one of the WORST things that can be said to anyone in that position.
What is your favorite way to cope with your life as a spoonie?
Enjoying the little things. Anything ranging from a sweet text from a friend to a hug and an “I love you, mom” from my son.
What is it that inspires you to keep going, despite your illness?
My son. Period. He is the reason I decided to go back to school to get a graduate degree and his unwavering love keeps me positive when so frequently I just want to curl up in a ball and cry.
What is one thing you’ve learned about yourself since your diagnosis?
I am stronger than I think. And, in the face of something that has the capacity to be totally life shattering, I can still be positive more often than not.
What is the most important piece of advice you would give to someone newly diagnosed with Fibro?
Read, read, read. Become well informed of your condition, but also understand that YOUR experience is not going to be like anyone else’s. Do not be afraid to try new things, whether they be a new drug therapy or exercise or essential oils, but also do not be afraid to speak up and tell your PCP or specialist what works and what doesn’t. This is not a “one size fits all” illness, so it should not be treated that way when you go to seek a cure. I have to take pain medication because, for me, this has been the best way I have discovered to manage my pain. I get looked down upon a LOT and it used to bother me (still does in some cases). But I have tried many different types of therapy and I know what works for me.
Being your own best advocate is your Ace in the Hole.YOUR experience with #Fibro is not going to be like anyone elses Click To Tweet
Is there anything else you’d like the readers to know?
It is very easy to curl up and disappear. And I know that many of us have had the feeling to do so, or maybe even have for a brief stint of time.
As difficult as it may be, do not let the illness define you.
Yes, you will have to make some life adjustments. And no, some aren’t fun.
But life is still waiting for you to live it.As difficult as it may be, do not let the illness define you. #Fibro #Spoonielife Click To Tweet
We all need to know that there are still many of us out there, fighting the fight.
The 2018 Update!
Ann welcomes your comments and would love to hear from you and connect with other #Spoonies. Please email her at email@example.com.
If you enjoyed this interview and would like to share your own story, please contact me.