Do you have someone in your life you'd call out as an energy vampire? Someone who seems to just suck the life and energy out of you in no time at all? Sadly, too often the worst energy vampire in your life is someone close to you, a family member or a good friend. I've had those people in my … [Read more...]
Chronic Illness and Friendships
Too often chronic illness can get in the way of friendships. The people who were your friends often can't understand what you are going through. They don't understand why you are no longer as available as you used to be.
It's difficult to maintain friendships when you don't feel well. You barely have the energy to take care of your needs, let alone to worry about returning phone calls, making plans, or being there for those around you.
You will likely find your list of friends narrows. Some of this will occur naturally and some by choice as you find that certain friends eat away at your already limited energy.
However, other friends are worth keeping and will be there no matter how "flaky" you may seem. The posts you'll find in this section cover everything from how to know which friends are worth keeping, to how to deal with those who aren't.
Here's a few of the most popular articles on these topics:
If you have a spouse or loved one living with chronic pain or chronic fatigue, you may feel useless at times because you can't ease their pain, you can't make them physically feel better. Often you want to do something or at least offer advice just in hopes that it might help them feel better. … [Read more...]
Hustle and bustle, two words that instantly come to mind when you think of the holiday season. All the stress of the other 11 months of the year packed into about 5 weeks. When asked what most Fibro folks and others with chronic pain and fatigue think of when they think of the holidays happy … [Read more...]
Living with chronic illness at times feels like you are wearing a sign that reads "Please offer unsolicited advice". Everyone seems to want to give us advice on what we are doing wrong, how we can feel better, etc, and the truth is that most of the time we want to smack them for doing it. Often … [Read more...]
I started thinking about this topic recently, about how there are certain things about living with chronic pain that those around us will never understand. That a healthy person just can't (sometimes won't) understand. As I thought about what came to my own mind, I asked the question … [Read more...]
Chronic Marriage is one of my favorite blogs to follow. It's one of only two (that I know of) that focus on what it's like to deal with chronic illness within a marriage. Not long ago she shared a post about "Why Friendships are Important to Your Marriage". There were a couple of statements she made … [Read more...]
Reading through the 3 Things the Chronically Ill Want Their Loves Ones to Know, one in particular stood out to me, because it's the one that is most true for me. " We can feel as if we’re letting you down even though you’ve repeatedly told us that we’re not." - 3 Things the Chronically Ill Want … [Read more...]
Things You Should Never Say to Someone Who Has Fibromyalgia Someone you know and love has Fibromyalgia or suffers from some sort of chronic pain. And, at some point you've said something to them that hurt their feelings and made them feel worse. You had no idea you did it. It's unlikely that … [Read more...]
What is a spoonie? A question that comes up pretty often on Twitter is "What is a Spoonie". We often used the hashtag #spoonie in our posts or refer to ourselves as Spoonies, and those who are new to the term don't understand why. What is the definition of a spoonie? And, where does that term … [Read more...]
This sweet guy is D.L's grand-dog. A big welcome this week to my friend, D.L. Miller. Another of the wonderful women I consider myself lucky to have met through the local support group. We are really so lucky to have such a great active support group. So, let's get to know D.L. When were … [Read more...]