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Chronic Illness and Friendships

Too often chronic illness can get in the way of friendships. The people who were your friends often can't understand what you are going through. They don't understand why you are no longer as available as you used to be.

It's difficult to maintain friendships when you don't feel well. You barely have the energy to take care of your needs, let alone to worry about returning phone calls, making plans, or being there for those around you.

You will likely find your list of friends narrows. Some of this will occur naturally and some by choice as you find that certain friends eat away at your already limited energy.

However, other friends are worth keeping and will be there no matter how "flaky" you may seem. The posts you'll find in this section cover everything from how to know which friends are worth keeping, to how to deal with those who aren't.

Here's a few of the most popular articles on these topics:

  • Chronic illness and friendship
  • Getting past the sadness & isolation of chronic pain
  • 6 Things I focus on when dealing with energy vampires

Why Can’t We See Our Own Lives?

Last Updated: September 23, 2013

"I think we have more trouble seeing our own lives sometimes..." This is something a friend of mine said recently in reply to how he'd sent myself and another friend the same link twice (about two weeks apart). He was commenting on how we all often repeat ourselves but we don't realize it. We'll … [Read more...]

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Fibro Warrior Wednesday – Kim

Last Updated: August 21, 2013

Kim Bell Schneider is another friend from my local Fibromyalgia Support Group. As you may have gathered by now, we have a really great and supportive group locally. When were you diagnosed? I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia last year, but was also diagnosed with Dysautonomia, Mitral Valve … [Read more...]

2 Comments Filed Under: Fibro Warriors, friendship Tagged With: diagnosis, interviews, support

Fibro Warrior Wednesday – Beverly D

Last Updated: August 14, 2013

Beverly D, is another member of my local support group. We have such a wonderful group of people in our group, with wide varieties of experience. She was diagnosed in 1998 What lead up to your diagnosis (symptoms, dr visits, etc)? I had severe headaches, joint pain, confusion, muscle pain, … [Read more...]

1 Comment Filed Under: Fibro Warriors, friendship Tagged With: dealing with fibro, diagnosis, family, interviews, support

Fibro Warrior Wednesday – Vicky J

Last Updated: August 7, 2013

This is the second installment of Fibro Warrior Wednesday, where I interview others who have been diagnosed with Fibro. Vicky J is another friend of mine from my local support group. She's been dealing with Fibro for most of her life, and handles it beautifully. Let me just say that Vicky is one of … [Read more...]

1 Comment Filed Under: Fibro Warriors, friendship Tagged With: huntsville, hypothyroid, interviews, support, thyroid

Fibro Warrior Wednesday – Beverly P

Last Updated: July 31, 2013

This is the first in the Fibro Warrior series; I will be sharing the story of a different Fibro Warrior each week. We each have our own unique journey through life, and sharing our stories can help us all. This first Fibromyalgia interview is with a good friend of mine, Beverly P. Beverly P is a … [Read more...]

12 Comments Filed Under: Fibro Warriors, friendship Tagged With: dealing with fibro, diagnosis, interviews, savella

It Gets Tiring Always Being the “Strong” One

Last Updated: September 28, 2010

It's tiring always being the strong one

I've posted over 100 Fibro Warrior Interviews and as different as they are, one thing almost all of them have in common is that when asked what they've learned about themselves from fibromyalgia, the answer is almost always "I'm stronger than I ever thought I was." Well, sometimes it gets tiring … [Read more...]

1 Comment Filed Under: Coping, Extra Spoons, Fibro and Marriage, friendship, relationships Tagged With: chronic illness

The Importance of Eliminating Negative People from Your Life

Last Updated: September 12, 2010

Why it's important to avoid negative people

Friends are such an important thing to have when you are sick. It's when you are sick that you find out who your true friends really are. Some people will claim to be your friends but when it comes down to it you realize they are only there for what they can get from you. Sometimes you find that … [Read more...]

2 Comments Filed Under: Coping, friendship, relationships Tagged With: decreasing stress, family

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About Julie

Spoonie. Fibro Warrior. E-health advocate.

Julie Ryan was diagnosed with fibromyalgia in 2010 and endometriosis in 2012. She's lived with chronic migraine most of her life. In 2019 she was diagnosed with inter-cranial hypertension.

Julie has a degree in Psychology, and works as a freelance writer and marketer. Freelance work allows her to work when she can and not be tied to a desk or a schedule. Julie believes in living an inspired life despite chronic illness.

"I have chronic illness, it doesn't have me."

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Blog title inspired by The Spoon Theory, by Christine Miserandino, an excellent explanation of what it's like to live with invisible illness. Read More…

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I am not a doctor. I do not claim to be a doctor. I do not play a doctor on TV or the internet. I simply share my experiences and what has worked for me. We are all different and before you try any new treatment, exercise, supplement, etc you should talk with your doctor (the real one, not the one on TV).

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