Jessica Martin over at noonegetsflowersforchronicpain inspires me just about every time I read one of her posts, and sometimes I just can’t help but share that inspiration. This is one of those times. Her recent post entitled “Stop Beating Yourself Up!” hit home for me. I get so frustrated when I hear people belittle their own pain with comments like “someone else is hurting worse”. There is always going to be someone who has it worse than I do. I get that, but it doesn’t make me hurt any less.
“Saying I should not be sad because someone has it worse is like saying I should not be happy because someone has more than I do. Its pure insanity.” – Jessica Martin
And, really, how do I know that they hurt more than I do? I’m not experiencing their pain, I’m experiencing my pain. You are experiencing your pain; whether it hurts more or less than my pain doesn’t matter. It’s your pain, own it!
“You do have the power to change your life,you just have to hit a point where you know you have had enough and deserve health and happiness. Beating yourself up is beyond self destructive and none of us deserve to be treated like crap. You are your biggest enemy, no one else. “ – Jessica Martin
It’s amazing to me how often we treat ourselves worse than anyone else would ever consider treating us, worse than we would ever consider treating anyone else (even someone we hate). Why do we treat ourselves so poorly?
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Well, I’ve had enough! I’ve had enough of beating myself up, of blaming myself for my pain, of treating myself poorly. I’m ready to treat myself the way I deserve to be treated, as well as I treat those around me. I’m ready to start asking for the things I need, and giving those things to myself when necessary. It amazes me how often we can find excuses not to give ourselves the life we should have. So often I see comments back to my posts from people. I say you should ask for help, they say “but no one will give it” or “be careful who you ask” or some other similar comment. I say it doesn’t matter how others respond, if they say no it’s on them, at least you asked for what you need. Don’t take it personally, don’t beat yourself up over it. Just move on and give yourself the gift of letting go. Move on and find others who will treat you the way you should be treated, who will help you get what you need.
It’s time to stop being our own worst enemy and start being our own best ally!
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