Inspiration can come from so many places, usually these posts are inspired by an inspirational blog, or another Fibro blog, but this edition of Sunday Inspiration is inspired by Freelance Writing Gigs blog, and you don’t need to be a writer for this post on Bouncing Back When You Feel Like a Failure to hit home.
We all feel like failures at times, even the most healthy, over-achieving extraordinaire feels like a failure sometimes. In fact, most of them had to fail a lot to get where they are. Those of us with chronic illness feel like failures way more than we should. It’s that guilt thing, we let it take over and instead of focusing on what we have done, and what we can do, we focus on all the things we can’t do. It’s when we focus on the things we can’t do (or ‘should’ do) that we feel the most like a failure.
We are NOT Failures!
The article mentions three things we can do to bounce back from failure, but more than that we need to do these three things at all times, to avoid feeling like a failure in the first place.
- Let it Go
It’s so easy to get stuck on things, and let them take over our minds and our hearts. When we allow ourselves to get stuck on all the things we aren’t accomplishing, we drown ourselves in doubt and negativity. Let it go! Shake if off, take 5 deep breaths and then move on. If you are having a bad day and you can’t get to anything on your to-do list focus on the fact that there is one thing you can do and you are doing it – Love Yourself. By taking that day to love yourself, to rest, and give your body time to do what it needs, you can do much more tomorrow. - Focus on Your Successes
So, you are stuck in bed today accomplishing nothing. Think about how much you got done yesterday (or last week, or whenever it was). Even if it’s only little things. Even if your success is nothing more than you got out of bed. Hey, you did it! And, for some, that is a great success. Whatever your successes are, big or small. Remember them. I find it good to keep a “Done” list of the things I have accomplished each day. It helps me look back and say “yes, I really did do something”. - Spend Time with those Who Really Love You!
The people who really love you, love you no matter what. And, all those things on your to-do list that you feel just must be done today? Ask someone you love to help you with them, they’ll be glad to help, and feel special to know that you trust them to do so. Even if you can’t spend time with someone in person, just connecting with someone who cares will do wonders for how you feel.
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If all else fails remember that to really succeed, you have to fail sometimes.
Carole Sian says
Poignant read and a really great reminder to remind ourselves from time to time of the good things 🙂
When younger I had fave music too that helped me to bounce back, hey! my nickname wasn’t zebedee for nothing! hehe 😀 I would go out dancing and feel the energy from the music…. loved it, but now all I have are my memories of that.
Nowadays as an older me, I find solace in the great outdoors, such as The Lake District & my family and the peacefulness it offers also helps, but that comes from being pretty much housebound. My family and close friends are fabulous at helping me to bounce back.
Wishing you wellness & less pain
Julie says
I love music and water. I wish I lived near the water now as I find it so peaceful and calming.
Susie Gomez says
Love this! I use music to help me bounce back and to help me get out of my head. I’m going to write a post on my blog about it soon.
Julie says
I love music to help me feel better. I have a specific playlist called “Happy Happy” just for that purpose. I look forward to reading your post.