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| “I think we have more trouble seeing our own lives sometimes…” |
This is something a friend of mine said recently in reply to how he’d sent myself and another friend the same link twice (about two weeks apart). He was commenting on how we all often repeat ourselves but we don’t realize it. We’ll tell the same stories over and over again but we don’t see it. However, when someone else tells us their stories repeatedly, we remember that we’ve heard that before. How true that is! It’s even more true when it comes to those of us with Fibromyalgia and Fibro fog kicks in.
I think the quote above holds more truth than just what it referenced. The truth is that it’s not just about repeating ourselves, it’s about really SEEING our own lives. We need real friends who can look in and give us the truth sometimes. Someone who is willing to “be mean” and tell us that there are things we can do to help ourselves, and then help us find those things and do them.
About a decade ago I’d just gotten divorced and in the process I’d put on about 50lbs or so. Luckily, one of my best friends from high school was in the same town with me and we’d reconnected. We were close enough and she was honest enough that one day she finally looked at me and said “You need to lose weight.” She was a little nicer and a little less blunt than that, but it was the truth. She was even willing to join a gym with me if it would get me to go and do something about my health problem (because it was a health problem). I wish she were still in town, but even from afar she’s still that honest voice I need sometimes. We all need that, because we really can’t see our own lives most of the time, we are too close.
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