Fibro Fog is one of the most annoying symptoms we deal with. It’s frustrating beyond all belief! But, today I realized there is one HUGE upside to “the Fog” – we forget a lot of bad things, too.
It’s so much easier to forgive and forget and move-on, when your memory just isn’t there to start with. It’s hard to hold a grudge when you can’t remember what you were fighting about in the first place.
There have been only a handful of times in my life (less than a whole handful even) where something has happened with someone and it created a situation where I held a grudge to the point of completely removing them from my life. That’s a hard thing to do really, to completely remove someone from your life. It means that you’ve not only decided you don’t want to be around them, but that you will go out of your way to avoid them.
A couple of years ago I was reading a book that talked about happiness and forgiveness and I finally realized that I had two people on my “shit-list” at that time. Seriously, that’s half the people that have ever been on said list and they were both still on there. I realized it was time to let it go.
The stress was no good for me, the extra effort to avoid them wasn’t helping things either and forgiveness was just going to feel better. So, I made the choice to just “let it go”.
Recently, I’ve had some situations come up where it would have been easy to let myself hold a grudge but I decided rather quickly that it wasn’t worth it. Choosing not to hold a grudge, doesn’t mean that I decide I’m going to be friends (or even friendly with the person). It just means I don’t waste energy on them.
It takes too much effort to hold a grudge. I need that energy for so many other things.
As I got a little further from the situation I realized that I was quickly forgetting the details of what had happened. While I could still recall the overall issue, and the feelings if I tried, I couldn’t hang onto the details. Perhaps it’s “the Fog” or perhaps it’s just that I made a conscious decision to “let it go”.
I do realize as I talk to more and more people that many of us with Fibro have a much harder time remembering things from our childhood. I know that I certainly don’t remember a lot of details from my childhood.
I have a few very vague memories, but very few specific ones. The upside is that I can’t remember a lot of the bad things, the downside is that I also can’t remember the good.
The major upside of the inability to remember, is that it forces you to live in Today, instead of spending all that time in yesterday. So, let’s make it the best Today that we can.
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- Why Letting Go is the Best Thing You Can Do For Yourself
- What’s It Like to Live with Fibro Fog?
- Staying Organized with Brain Fog
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