I was reading this article by Sue Ingbretson on Rehearing Positivity, and I couldn’t help but relate it to my life, and chronic illness. Sure, it’s important that we try to practice positivity (I preach that all over the place), but more than that.
As I read this article I couldn’t help thinking about all the times we head into situations that we “just know are going to cause a flare” and we work them in our minds to the point beyond what they may really be. Early on in my illness I reached a point where I just stopped making plans because it felt like everything I did caused a flare, OR worse, I was in a flare before the planned event arrived and I couldn’t even go. Because of that I began to feel that everything I did would cause a flare, and I’d focus on what might happen after the event (the flare) instead of enjoying the event or the people I was around. I was so focused on tomorrow that I created a negative today (and a negative tomorrow, too).
Did you know that the mind cannot differentiate between a real experience and one that is vividly imagined? That means, it doesn’t differentiate between a dress rehearsal and a live performance. Your body experiences, on a physical level, every thought that you have. So pay particular attention to the not-so-helpful ones. – Sue Ingbretson
This is a fact of science and Psychology (and a common problem with eye witnesses). How often have we thought about having a specific conversation or writing an email to the point that we believe we’ve actually done it, only to find out later that no such email was sent or conversation had. We do this to our bodies, as well. We imagine situations to be a certain way to the point that our body actually experiences that situation whether we follow through with the experience or not. We create our own reality, whether it’s real or not.
After a few years with Fibromyalgia, I finally had to let go. I had to stop worrying about tomorrow and start living today. I still don’t make plans too far in advance (at least if they require buying tickets) BUT, I do make plans and I look forward to them in a positive way. I don’t spend mental (or physical) energy worrying about how things might turn out negatively, because doing so creates not only negative energy now, but depletes my physical energy both now and later. Why suffer today over the possibility of what might happen tomorrow? Instead, enjoy today. Worry about tomorrow when it gets here.
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