One of the new blogs I’ve been following is the Shiny Soul Project. It’s a great inspirational blog by Asetha. A recent post she made caught my attention – Nine Signs that Unhealthy Friendships are Fueling Your Fibromyalgia.
We all have them, the “friends” that we love but hate spending time with because we know that doing so will leave us feeling totally exhausted within minutes. These are often the friends who have no time to listen to you but want to talk to you non-stop about their lives, which are often excessively negative. I’ve posted about these energy vampires a couple of times in the past, but it’s always worth revisiting.
I know that for me, as easy as it is to remove one energy vampire, another one will often find me. It may be hard to remove such people from your life but it doesn’t need to be. These are the type of people who are so self-involved that they won’t really notice you are gone. Simply stop calling them and don’t return their calls. It won’t be long before they are gone completely. Initially, they may miss having your ear to listen to them, but they’ll find another soon enough.
It can be difficult to wrap your mind around because often we don’t feel like we have many friends, when we spend much of our time cocooned in our health issues. However, removing one negative person from your life can make a world of difference on your stress level. You may not even realize how much damage that person is doing to you until they are gone. So, if there’s someone in your life that you find you dread spending time with, whose phone calls you routinely avoid, who leaves you feeling drained after every encounter, it’s time to let them go. Dealing with Fibromyalgia, or any fatiguing illness, you don’t have enough energy to give it away.